Is Adoption “giving a baby up”?
Take a moment and place yourself in the “shoes” of a woman with an unplanned pregnancy. What would your options be? Can you imagine the initial shock, fear and worry as you say to yourself, “I’m Pregnant”!? Imagine what it’s like to have people around you telling you to raise your baby. They freely share
It Is Good
Part of my job as a caseworker is helping clients with transportation. The car ride gives us a chance to talk and build our relationship in a more natural, casual setting. Recently, a client invited me back for her ultrasound. I’ve seen an ultrasound printout before, but I’m always that person who asks what part
Birth Mothers are Exceptional Women
Summer graduation at Florida Colleges and Universities are in full swing. Among those receiving the diploma they have worked for are individuals who have realized life events that have molded them. No matter how hard the life event was, they would not be who they are unless they had lived through it. One such recent
God’s Purpose and an Unplanned Pregnancy
My Dear Child, This letter to you is both difficult to write, yet very helpful, knowing that I can try to explain the circumstances and reasons for placing you for adoption when I discovered my unplanned pregnancy. Your mom and dad are very special people and I hope you love and obey them. They definitely love
Adoption and the Birth Mother
It seems like adoption is straightforward: Single woman has an unplanned pregnancy; woman doesn’t want him/her; Man and Woman want a newborn adoption; Woman gives her child to Man and Woman; a Forever Family is formed. If you are already part of an adoption triad or work in the adoption field, you are probably cringing
Happily Ever After – Part 6
When I started this blog, I mentioned the New Forever Family living happily ever after. After all, that is the goal of adoption. A family having the chance to be just that: A Family. Contrary to news story adoption headliners, most adoptions do result in a happy family. Sure, they may have different challenges along
Happily Ever After – Part 5
As a society, we need to change the way we view and talk about adoption. While most of us probably agree adoption is a good thing, that “goodness” is usually only directed at the adoptive parents and children, while birth parents are viewed in a negative light or not thought about at all. Why is
Happily Ever After – Part 4
When talking about the emotional rollercoaster that is the world of adoption, the child must of course be recognized as well. After all, they are the centerpieces of adoption! As mentioned before, adoption had drastically changed. Whereas adoptions use to be completely closed, most current adoptions have at least some level of openness to them.
Happily Ever After – Part 3
In Part One, I mentioned adoption is full of heartbreak, and last week I talked about a lot of the birth mothers’ pain. However, a birth mother is not the only party in the triad (birth parent, adoptive family, child) who experiences heartbreak. Often times, an adoptive family has experienced pain and heartbreak of their
